Focusing on the "what" of obedience and honor.
To help the child understand their own heart’s motivations and their need for God’s grace. 2. The "Shaping Influences" Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Trip
Focusing on the "why" and developing godly traits. Focusing on the "what" of obedience and honor
Moving toward a mentoring relationship as the teen learns to shepherd their own heart before God. 6. The Gospel Focus Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Trip
Most parenting techniques focus on "behavior modification"—getting a child to act a certain way through rewards or punishments. Tripp suggests this is superficial. If you change the behavior without reaching the heart, you are simply training a child in hypocrisy.